Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.
— Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven

Couples Therapy

  • Do you long for closeness and intimacy in your relationship?

  • Do you want to end the loneliness and pain in your marriage?

  • Do you want to improve communication to resolve problems and conflicts?

  • Are you recovering from a crisis of infidelity?

The basis of Emotionally Focused Therapy, (EFT) is Attachment Theory which states that we all need to feel close, safe, secure and connected to our partners for overall wellbeing. When that attachment bond is threatened or becomes insecure we have strong negative reactions. If these reactions persist, entrenched, self-defeating negative patterns emerge. These patterns become the downward spiral of pain and distress.

EFT is a light in the darkness in healing these negative cycles of interaction. Slowly and safely we work together to reestablish a safe and secure bond. As the bond is reestablished couples are then able to work through their conflicts in a more loving and connected way. Ultimately, couples are then able to create deeply loving and intimate relationships.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, a research-based therapeutic model of adult love, was designed and intensely researched by Dr. Sue Johnson and her colleagues at the International Centre For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) in Ottawa, Canada. For more information about EFT see www.iceeft.com.